The 5 things you should never
do at work are:
4. Proclaim that you’re
miserable
Just the other day, I was talking to a former client who had
marched into her boss’s office that week and shared that she was miserable at
work and volunteered for a severance package. I’ve done that myself – been so
unhappy at work that I put my hand up for a package. I didn’t get it, and
neither did my client. After sharing that news and not receiving the package,
you’re stuck in a deeply unsettling situation of the employer knowing you’re a
terrible fit for your role. There are a few specific instances where this might
be the right move, but in general, sharing that you hate your job is not the
way to go.
But what if it’s the truth? My father used to say that there are 10 different ways to say
anything, and I think he’s right. Phrases like “miserable,” “unhappy,” “fed
up,” “ready to leave,” and “need to go” are not helpful when you’re talking to
your colleagues, bosses, or HR staff.
What is the better way? Talk about what you’re great at and love
to do, what you’ve accomplished, and what you’re ready for. Share your work
highlights and new directions you’re excited and committed to take your career,
and discuss your plans and desires for growth and change. Open the door for new
opportunities at your current employer that will expand our skills, your resume
and your talents. Try to find ways at your current job (where you’re already
getting paid) to grow, stretch and build yourself. Explore every option
available to you for becoming what you want to without walking out in anger and
disgust. Your employer might very well be able to sponsor and support your growth
and change, but it won’t happen if you stomp in and say “I’m miserable and it’s
your fault.”
